My shrines to my two Husbands have nothing to do with who they are in the Otherworlds. The shrines are full of things I associate with them as people, in our personal lives together that have nothing to do with the Otherworlds.
It’s becoming a major distinction in my practice, the personal side of my practice (my marriages, and relationships with close Family members) and the more business like side of my practice (my more formal relationships with my Husbands’ Allies, and the rare times I deal with my Spouses in Godly Power mode.) The separation of business vs. personal sides of my practice is also important to my Husbands–they both refer to me as being their Home, that when they’re with me they’re (usually) not in Godly Power Mode.
Even though there’s a difference between my everyday, more casual, personal lives with my Husbands and their Otherworldly lives and Jobs, learning more about their Otherworld Jobs has impacted my practice. It’s given me more understanding of who they are and has helped me understand them better.
A lot of things have been falling into place recently, mainly involving my two Spouses and their history and lives Over There. Part of it is that I’m getting drawn further into the Otherworlds, and that means learning not only about the Realm itself, but about the history around it.
Until recently, there was always a large gap in the Dreamer’s history, in what I knew of him. He’d told me a few stories, but they all revolved around him as [the Dreamer’s touchstone name]. He has chosen Family within the Pantheon that [touchstone name] is from, so him being [touchstone name] was technically correct, at least in one way. But the stories he told stopped after he fled from that Realm, only to pick up again when he adopted his son. There was always that large chunk of his story that was missing.
“The legends and myths are about all the dramatic things, the scary times. Life is about ordinary, day-to-day things, and the legends don’t talk about that.”
The story–the Dreamer’s personal story, the story of his Realm and Kingdom, and the story of his history with the Madman–it’s all coming together now. Not only through seeing my Spouses’ memories, but in them saying “here, let me explain this.” They’re telling me more stories, like about when the two of them first met, and I’m learning more about their Otherworld Jobs and what their lives are like Over There.
The more I learn about my Husbands’ Otherworld Jobs, the more I understand why they don’t want me to see them as their Jobs. The don’t want to be “this god who does That Job, who’s also my Husband,” they want to just be my Husband. (The nicknames I call them by publicly have nothing to do with their Otherworld Jobs for this reason as well.)
I used to want to know everything about them. And while I still want to know more about them, and their history, I find that it’s not something I need to know. I’m okay with them telling me their story at their own pace, and learning as I go.